The Christian Response to Harsh Words

Proverbs 15:1

A soft answer turns away wrath, But a harsh word stirs up anger. (NKJV)

Proverbs 15:1 teaches us that words are both precious and potent. How we say something is just as important as what we say. The Hebrew word, raḵ, means soft or tender. The implication here is that a tender response is the best response to wrath. It is the best way to counter the vicious cycle of warring between two parties. At the same time, do not think of the soft tender response as a full-proof way to resolve conflicts. Hardened hearts are not always easily softened. Verse one says that "a soft answer turns away wrath." As believers, think of it as a better way to deal with conflict and turning hearts.

The Hebrew word, ḥēmâ, which translates wrath, also means poison or rage. A soft answer turns away rage; thus, it lessens the tension. Our tender words dilute or neutralize what poisons our relationships and open the pathway for peace and reconciliation. Children of God, you may not be able to control the anger of others, but you are responsible for how you deal with others. You are the blessed peacemakers that our Lord speaks of in the scriptures.

Let's pause to think of how we responded when others have spoken to us harshly. Did not their words stir up anger within us? Now think about a time when you were angry, and someone responded to you with a soft answer. Though the issue may not have been resolved, the gentle response of the other person did not add more fuel to the fire. Harsh words stir up the anger and carve out a warpath for us to walk upon. Remember, anger upon anger leaves a path of destruction behind. Who among us will be brave enough or humble enough to be the blessed peacemaker?

Rev. Dr. Timothy Martin